It takes a lot of effort to build a relationship generally, and then to allow that relationship to get close, now that is going too far, HA. If I put effort into a relationship, then get rejected or fluffed off because I see things from an eccentric point of view, I begin to wonder if pursuing a close relationship is worth the effort.
I'm not saying that within a close relationship two people won't disagree strongly, that's not what I’m saying. Within close relationships two people will inevitably have different points of view, perhaps on both extremes of an issue and that is normal. What I am saying is: closeness should allow a sharing completely of each other's ideas, closeness should allow each person to be themselves without fear of rejection. I find it hard to trust someone with my deepest thoughts. Perhaps this is the cards I’m dealt. ~b