We should all want our marriages to last a lifetime and if we don't want that, we should find that desire. One way to find that desire or rekindle it is to think back to our original hopes and dreams when we said 'I Do' or, think back to our dreams of marriage as adolescents. Today's society would tell us to trade that heap in for a shiny new model. Our society has made us consumers of much more than stuff huh? There are one or two caveats in my opinion: If someone is abusive which can cover a few scenarios.
One sure way to help a struggling marriage unless there is abuse is to die to self. By that I mean, lay aside your own desires or belief of the situation and really listen to your spouse's words or body language. Go out of your way to help your spouse in their day to day activities. After some time, you might be surprised to see your spouse doing things for you and, seeing things more your way. Don't expect an overnight turn around especially if your problems have been going on for some time. Don't rush a cure. Things may very well change for the better sooner however; if your problems have been going on for 5 years, expect 5 years for the cure-in other words, death to self for 5 years. Like I said, pleasant waters will likely happen sooner but start the journey packing for more than the night. Marriage is a long haul endeavor, approach everything within it, in that vein of thought.
Being in the same spiritual plain is very important as well. If each of you views greater things than this physical world differently, you will have contention some time along your journey. If you are not married yet, it is vital that you find someone whose spiritual belief is similar to yours. If you are already married to someone who believes differently than you...pray, and walk the walk of your own belief, not just talk the talk. Hopefully after some time, one of you will see the spirit realm as your spouse and have some peace.
Truly love your spouse, you married him/her for a reason.~b